Paula,
First, let me say that you are not alone. By coming here you have found some wonderful friends and resources. I only recently found this site when my brother in law tested positive, so I'm a relative newcomer, but what I've seen has really been helpful.
I know what you mean about people distancing themselves. In the years preceeding my mother in laws death, it seemed like all of their long time friends just disappeared, no more invitations, no calls, visits, etc. Personally, I think they can't handle seeing someone they've known and loved suffer so.
You didn't say where your husband was in his disease, is he at home? Still working, etc.?
Please let me know and keep in touch. (I've got really big shoulders
) Also, feel free to add me to your buddy list so you'll know when I'm on line, I work weird hours so I'm on at different times of the day. My screen address is Bfloabbott*at*cs.com.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers,
Don